Happy Sunday! It’s grey and windy here in Iowa today, but I’m digging it. I’m tucked in at the kitchen table, watching the gusts blow the flame-colored leaves from our bushes, and appreciating that I now have time to write. If it was nice outside, I would just HAVE to go for a walk or a bike ride or a car-ride to Crawford Brewery. 🙂
So, the big question is, what to write about??
Well, the thing that’s been on my mind most often lately, is Feelings. I dig how the Universe will continually tap you on the shoulder with something that you just REALLY need to know or figure out. Like over and over and over again, in many different ways, via many different sources, until you finally listen. The current in the Ether in my world is revolving around Feelings, and more specifically, the need to actually Feel those pesky things.
Why? Why is it important to feel your feelings?
Oh, for SO many reasons!! But here are 3 good ones:
1. When I don’t take time to notice what I am feeling, I miss vital information. Emotions provide guidance on what you need more of and what you need less of.
2. When I don’t take time to process my feelings, when I ignore them and push them away to be dealt with “later,” I add yet another layer of tension, another layer of armor. Emotions are energy, and if that energy is not transmuted, it will get stuck and take up space in the body.
3. Finally, if I don’t learn to how process emotions, they scare me, and I avoid doing things that could cause me to feel that emotion. The desire to not feel certain things creates false bumper rails, making my life and experience more and more narrow. Life gets smaller, less colorful, less interesting.
Does that happen to you as well?
What can we do about it? How does one start to “feel” feelings, when one has never been taught how to do that?
Here is a practice that might help. When you notice the impulse to grab your phone, grab something to eat, grab something to drink, take a breath and pause. Ask yourself, what am I feeling? If you have the time and space to do so, set the timer on your phone for 2 minutes and sit and watch what that emotion looks like on the inside – Where do you feel it? Is it heavy or light? Does it have a color? How would you describe the texture? Does it stay in the same place or does it move around? Notice what happens when you turn towards the sensation with curiosity instead of turning your back on it with resistance.
When I practice this, sometimes the emotion stays with me, and sometimes I watch it move around and then leave. And when that happens – wow – I feel more space inside. One layer of the onion has dissolved!
This podcast really made me think even more deeply about the need to feel and process our emotions. Here are some questions you can ask yourself: What am I avoiding because I don’t want to experience emotional pain? What emotions am I afraid of experiencing and who would I be/what would I do if I wasn’t afraid of experiencing these emotions?
As always, thank you for reading. I hope you have a fabulous week. Have some fun. Find a safe space and feel some feelings. Get outside. Connect with someone for realsies – talk about Life, The Universe, and Everything.
And remember, if you want guidance with finding more space in your body and mind, I’m here for you.